She Wouldn’t Lend Her Friend $500 Since She Didn’t Want To Enable His Bad Money Management Habits Anymore, But He Said She Wasn’t A True Friend
This woman has been friends with a guy named John for over 10 years now, ever since they met back in college. The entire time she’s known John, he’s also always been kind of a “free spirit.”
According to her, he’s just never been able to hold down a steady job for a long period of time.
So, throughout their decade-long friendship, she has lent him some money on a few separate occasions whenever he became stuck in a bind.
“But he rarely pays me back and often spends it on things he doesn’t really need,” she revealed.
That’s why, when John recently asked to borrow $500 again, she was understandably hesitant.
John apparently claimed that he needed the cash to pay his rent, but she’d seen him blow money on other unnecessary purchases before. For instance, he would splurge on expensive gadgets or spend nights out on the town.
That’s why, this time, she finally decided to put her foot down and draw a boundary with John.
“I told him that I can’t keep lending him money because I feel like I am enabling his bad habits and financial irresponsibility,” she recalled.
She also suggested that John work on finding a more stable job and, in the meantime, find a financial counselor so he could get some help with his money management.
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Well, to say that John was angry would be an understatement. He immediately became furious with her after she said that and accused her of not caring about him. He even claimed that she wasn’t a “true friend.”
On top of that, John pointed out how she has plenty of money now – since she has a good job – and believed it was “easy” for her to judge him.
In the wake of their argument, she can’t help but feel really upset, too, because she honestly does care about John.
“But I also don’t want to keep enabling behavior that I think is harmful to him in the long run,” she vented.
Still, she’s not sure if refusing to lend John any more money is the right move or if she really is acting like a bad friend.
Do you agree that continuing to lend John money won’t help him become more independent and responsible? Or should she help him out again? What would you do?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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