She Wants To Leave Her Disabled Boyfriend Because His Illnesses Have Gotten Worse, And She Can’t Keep Handling Everything Alone
When you fall in love with someone who has an intense illness or disability, some moments may make you falter, and it can be hard to know whether or not you want to stay with them.
One woman is considering leaving her sick and disabled boyfriend after his condition has only gotten worse, and she’s spending all her time and money caring for him.
She and her boyfriend are in their late 20s and met online five years ago. When they entered a relationship, he moved across the country to live with her.
When she first met her boyfriend, she learned he had several chronic illnesses, and while they initially caused him some pain spells, he could work through them and stay out and about.
However, as time has passed, his condition has declined, and to make matters worse, he doesn’t take very good care of himself.
“Now he’s on medication, but I’m lucky if he is awake for more than half the day,” she explained.
“I agreed to the relationship because I figured he would be able to handle his own health, but his health has declined more and more. He will miss appointments because he decided to stay up all day the previous day and then sleep through his alarm.”
Because of her boyfriend’s small income, she’s found that since his health started declining, she spends half her paychecks on him and the other half on all their household bills.
They are constantly behind on their rent payments and other deadlines because she’s trying to balance everything on her own. Her boyfriend hardly helps with any chores and takes days to finish one task.
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“He [also] doesn’t know how to control his anger, so when he’s upset at something, whether it’s his phone, headphones, a video game, etc.,” she added.
“He doesn’t know how to calm down, which stresses me out. I’ve brought up how his anger makes me anxious and angry, and there seems to be no improvement.”
While she believes her boyfriend is a wonderful person, she doesn’t know if she wants to stay with him anymore since she feels more like a stay-at-home mom and nurse than a girlfriend.
She feels tired, depressed, and like she hasn’t been “properly loved” by her boyfriend in a long time. On the other hand, she doesn’t want to be a bad person by abandoning him at his lowest and feels guilty anytime he acknowledges how much she helps him.
“I’m running on empty and have been pouring into this guy from an empty cup for almost two years now,” she admitted.
“I just need to know that I am not a bad person for wanting to leave a relationship with a chronically ill person.”
What do you think she should do?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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