She Skipped Her Best Friend’s Wedding After She Was Confronted About Her Social Anxiety
This 28-year-old woman’s 27-year-old best friend asked her to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, and her best friend was actually her Maid Of Honor when she got married two years ago.
Prior to her own wedding, she and her best friend always maintained they would make the other person a Maid Of Honor one day.
She’s been close to her best friend for two decades, and when her best friend requested that she be a bridesmaid, she felt hurt that she wasn’t asked to hold the most important role. Her best friend has a twin sister whom she asked to be her Maid Of Honor instead.
Then, her best friend mentioned that she didn’t have to stand up there along with the rest of the bridesmaids during the ceremony.
She thought it was a bizarre comment, and she pushed back on her best friend, insisting that she wanted to be there with everyone.
“After a bit of back and forth, she admitted she doesn’t want me standing there with everyone because of my fear of being the center of attention and my social anxiety,” she explained.
“She was worried that I would have a panic attack just like I did standing there at my own wedding. Honestly, it was bad during my wedding because I was shaking and couldn’t breathe, and everyone’s terrified reaction made it even worse for me.”
“I had to leave and come back to just me, my husband, and my mother to continue our vows and such while everyone else moved on to the reception. I couldn’t even go join them until I was drunk enough not to feel embarrassed.”
After the drama of her own wedding day, she went to therapy. She believes she has progressed and has told her best friend as much.
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Her best friend recognized her progress yet confirmed she was too worried to take any risks on her own special day.
She felt so insulted that her best friend didn’t trust that her social anxiety was under control, but her best friend pointed out she didn’t want her to feel humiliated in any way and would be too concerned about her.
Her best friend added that she wouldn’t want to ruin her wedding with a panic attack from a bridesmaid.
She finally informed her best friend that she would prefer being a guest if she couldn’t perform all the roles like the rest of the girls in the bridal party.
“On the day of her wedding, I was just so sick to my stomach with hurt and sadness that I was merely going as a guest to her wedding that I just decided not to go because I felt so left out,” she said.
“Now she is very mad at me for making her feel bad at her wedding. She thinks I was trying to hurt her and make her feel guilty because of what she thinks was a reasonable request. I didn’t mean to hurt her, but I just couldn’t go because I was overwhelmed with hurt.”
She has spoken to several people about her decision to stay home and not attend her best friend’s wedding, but nobody can determine if she was in the wrong or if her best friend was.
She does feel awful for destroying the mood for her best friend’s wedding, but she felt too hurt by her best friend’s request to even show up as a guest.
She’s left wondering if it was rude of her to skip out on her best friend’s wedding. What do you think?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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