His Late Wife’s Mother Is Pressuring Him To Leave An Empty Chair In Honor Of His Late Wife At His Second Wedding, But The Idea Makes Him Really Uncomfortable
While it’s great to honor our late loved ones in a special way whenever possible, there are some circumstances where it isn’t necessary or would be too much.
One man isn’t sure what to do after his former mother-in-law began pressuring him to leave a seat open in honor of his late wife at his upcoming wedding.
He lost his wife 12 years ago when he was still quite young. It took him a long time to grieve and recover, but he eventually realized that to move on, he needed to do whatever made him happy.
He met his current fiancée seven years ago and was very careful with how he approached their relationship, wanting to honor his past relationship while making room for a new one. His fiancée was extremely understanding and respectful of the fact that he was a widow.
“I’m going to get married in November; at first, I didn’t know whether to invite my first wife’s family because I didn’t know if they would want to attend,” he said.
“I never said anything to them or invited them to the wedding, and I don’t talk with them except for a text every few months.”
However, when he told his former mother-in-law about his upcoming wedding, she expressed that she’d like to go, so he invited her and her husband. While he felt having them there would be a bit strange, he didn’t want to say no.
Later, while talking to his mom about plans for the wedding, she mentioned that his former mother-in-law told him it’d be nice if he left an empty chair open at the ceremony and reception.
This stumped him, especially considering his mother-in-law didn’t talk to him about this directly.
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“We pay per seat [and] each chair we put up is charged as if it were a person as if someone was really present,” he explained.
“Honestly, I am quite tight financially on the wedding, so I think it would be a waste of money on something symbolic because If I do that for her, I also have to do that for all the members of my family who died.”
Instead of dwelling too much on the past and having the sort of depressing symbol at his wedding, he’d rather keep the atmosphere fun and joyful for his future wife. He suggested to his mom that if someone wanted to pay to keep the chair open, they could, but he isn’t really comfortable with the idea in general.
Now, he’s unsure what to do, as his in-laws and relatives are making him feel guilty for not having some sort of special tribute for his late wife at his wedding.
What would you do if you were him?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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